It is difficult to know when a relationship to come to an end. When the problems recur do should we keep trying? When we know that the best is the separation? Reflection of four questions can help us decide. Once, the main function of the relationships of couple era the childbearing and build a family, today, is more important personal experience that we live in the couple’s life. Earlier, the continuity of the relationship was assured no matter what happened, many people have had to endure stormy situations because so had that be, even today still happening although in many fewer cases. At present already there is social pressure that prevented the dissolution of a marriage or a couple. However, there are a series of values that indirectly influence the mindset of the members of a couple and the healthy development of the same condition.
We live in a society oriented to consumerism and the search for something new, a society somehow infantilizada. We also seek benefits in relations rapid, short term and with little personal investment. I.e., as if it were a company, if we do not get immediate emotional benefits succulent company we turn to another relationship in the same way as disolveriamos. A quick divorce would be the solution, the problem is that in the future we will return to repeat the mistakes with this mentality. Firstly, we must accept that it is not enough to love, sometimes two people can be very sure of their feelings towards each other, but they cannot match their vital projects. Quitting forcing reality to enable both to exercise calm and at peace with itself is a challenge to overcome.
Secondly, should know where this limit that distinguishes the behaviors and attitudes that allow you to experience how productive conflict of those that are harmful to the relationship. Thirdly, must be borne in mind that there are three elements, you, me, and the relationship. Each must take responsibilities of himself and the two of the relationship. One cannot solve the problems concerning the two. You can cast them on our backs, but not solve them. The last thing to consider is as we feel us before the needs which shows us the couple. It should not do everything that our couple wants to make if not we feel comfortable in the situation, this eventually would end up taking a toll, put certain limits. We could then say that when vital projects are not compatible, when the limits of respect, are overcome when we were left alone to fight for a relationship or we cannot accept the needs of our partner, perhaps there’s time to put an end to a relationship. Enrique Jimenez thanks to iMprove (publish on iphone). For more information on personal development see iMprove iphone applications